learning to swim


So recently I overheard a conversation that basically went, if you could achieve 5 things in the next 5 years what would they be? I thought it would be a great topic for a blog post.

So I thought about it… and thought about it and thought about it. I’m the sort of person that is always looking forwards. I want to do and see so much, and whilst I am happy and grateful for my life I can’t help but think about the other things that I haven’t done yet.

Since I had my kids though, the majority of the things that I want to see and do involve the small but oh so important people in my life. I want them to have as many opportunities and experiences as possible. Which leads me nicely onto the first thing on my #5in5 list.


1. Take my kids to Florida

Easily at the top spot for me is a trip to see Mickey and friends in the Florida sunshine. I am lucky enough to have been to Disneyland Paris already. I went as a teenager and single adult, we took the kids back in 2014 and we have booked a surprise trip for them this year too. But there is SO much more at Florida that goes alongside Disney – Epcot, Universal Studios, Busch Gardens, Wet n Wild…. the list is extensive, and it would be a .. well I don’t want to say once in a lifetime as I’ve heard you need to go at least twice to really do EVERYTHING.. but an incredible experience that I would love to have with my kids whilst they are still young enough to appreciate the magic. If I had to pick one holiday to have with my kids, that would be it!


2. Grow my business

It is still less than a year since I started freelance writing and my business has already taken off quicker than I could have imagined. I am lucky enough to have a regular network of great clients, fantastic referral rates and have worked on some really interesting projects. I have also had the opportunity to diversify into other areas. However I would love to be able to continue to grow and develop my business in the next 5 years and perhaps get into the realms of expanding? Who knows!


3. Learn to swim

You may or may not know that I still can’t swim and I am absolutely petrified of the water. Countless people have offered to teach me and countless people have failed. Part of me thinks, you know what, I’ve got to 33 without being able to swim I’ll just not bother, but part of me would really like to learn. I think this is a pipeline dream though, I honestly don’t think I will get over my fear enough to achieve it!


4. Move house

It would definitely have to be right at the end of the 5 years, but I would like to think about moving to a nicer area and get a house with a proper study – which may be vital is my business does grow! I do love a lot of things about my house now, and I absolutely hate moving, but it would be nice to be in a safer area so I’m less worried about when the time comes for the kids to get the bus to secondary school and go out with their mates and stuff!


5. Have another baby

I really want to expand my family again…. Kidding! Sorry had to put that in case my mother-in-law or hubby reads this… love to keep them on their toes! No that ship has well and truly sailed! My real number 5 however…

5. I would like to do more for charity

We put our hands in our pockets quite regularly when it comes to supporting various charities, but I would definitely like to start making a more hands-on effort, starting this year.  In July I plan to run the Race for Life: Pretty Muddy  as part of a team of girls who want to raise money for Cancer Research – a cause particularly close to my heart since once of my best friends was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer at the end of 2015.

The R4L:PM is going to be the first in what I intend to become regular fundraising efforts that I make over the coming years.



So that about sums it up, my #5in5. I’m interested to hear yours?!

Dee xoxox

If you could give your children one skill that you don’t possess, what would it be?

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Yes it’s random question of the day time….. I might make it a regular feature! But in all seriousness, if you could ensure that your children possessed one skill that you don’t have, what would it be? I’d be really interested to know.

It’s an easy question for me – I would give – and am attempting to give – my children the skill of being able to swim. It might seem a bit of a shallow skill (excuse the pun), it’s not the skill of being a good listener or being able to resolve conflict, or any other admirable quality. However I am a firm believer in life skills, and not learning to swim is one of my biggest regrets in life.

“Why don’t you learn now?”, I hear you all cry. Believe me I have tried. But my total phobia of the water, lack of confidence and general wussiness means that I just can’t. I have tried to learn copious amounts of times. Anyone who hears that I can swim immediately says, “oh I’ll teach you” with a certain air of confidence. That is until they see me in the water and they realise there is no hope. I can’t even swim with a float. The only way I feel remotely safe is in a rubber ring….. and there is no way you are going to see an overweight, 30-something mum flailing about in a rubber ring!

Anyway, I am quite content to sit by the poolside with my kindle and a mai tai. The difference is I can’t relax, because I have two young kids to keep an eye on and I’m petrified about them falling in the pool – especially given how clumsy they both are! Luckily, as you will see from the pics below the kids swimming lessons are starting to pay off. They would pay off a bit quicker if my son didn’t spend most of his lesson with his head under the water doing somersaults!

It’s cost us a small fortune, but my daughter has recently achieved her 20m badge, and my son has achieved his Level 1 award. He isn’t quite swimming on his own yet, but hopefully with time and patience they will both become confident and competent swimmers – who can save me if I fall in the pool!!!